To potential expectant parents who are considering adoption:
“Adoption carries the added dimension of connection not only to your own tribe but beyond, widening the scope of what constitutes love, ties, and family. It is the larger embrace.” – Isabella Rossellini
Hello, friend! We’re Drew and Kelly! Thanks for “stopping by!” Adoption has always been our “Plan A.” Long before we were married we knew that adoption would be prominent in our family story, but we waited (sometimes impatiently) for God’s prompting and direction. Years of unique relationships and experiences in the adoption community birthed in us a passion that led us on our first adoption journey in 2015, and, ultimately, to our son Graham and his birth family.
We believe that “family” is more than DNA, and that the relationships in adoption beautifully mirror those we have with our Creator and Savior, for we, too, have received adoption into the family of God through Jesus’ redemption (Ephesians 4:5). We believe adoption demonstrates God’s intent for our world to be connected through the love of Christ, not blood or lineage. Through Graham’s open adoption, we have experienced the great depths of God’s grace and love. It has completely and utterly transformed our world, and there is nothing we are more passionate about than stewarding these gifts of “love, ties, and family.”
Who we are as a family:
We are high school sweethearts! After sharing a get-away car while tp-ing a friend’s house, we knew there was something special brewing between us. Five years later, we shared vows in front of our dear friends and family and kicked off our adventure together with a killer dance party.
Drew is a tax accountant at a private company in Minneapolis. He is an avid Twins baseball fan and loves to sneak away on the weekend to hit a round of golf with his friends. Drew loves being around people and his quick wit makes him a crowd favorite wherever he goes. Kelly is an Assistant Children’s Ministry Director at our church and a Title I Tutor at an elementary school in our community. She loves planning and hosting parties, baking, and going on adventures outside with Graham. She is compassionate and kind, endearing her to anyone that receives her thoughtfulness.
Graham is our fearless, hilarious, and sweet son, born and adopted through New Life in 2015. His favorite things at the moment are motorcycles and monster trucks, and he loves pretending to be a “motorcycle guy” and ride his strider bike around our cul-de-sac. For being so little, he is very thoughtful and considerate of others, always quick to share and brighten others’ days through a hug. Graham is also biracial, white and African American, giving us the gift of being a multiracial family. As a family we love to attend Twins games, go for walks around the neighborhood, host game nights and themed dinners, and spend time with our favorite people. We are very close to our families, both in proximity and relationship, and we spend lots of time eating, laughing, and playing with them. Although our calendar is always packed full of fun events and get-togethers, some of our favorite days and nights are spent together at home or around a bonfire sharing memories and marshmallows.
Our views on openness in adoption:
We believe in, and have experienced, the great gift openness offers a child, birth family, and adoptive family. We share a sweet, open relationship with Graham’s birth mother and her family. We exchange texts and photos frequently, gather together many times a year, and FaceTime when we are not able to connect in person. We find such an incredible joy in seeing him loved by so many wonderful people!
Of course, we recognize that each adoption is unique and deeply personal, and we respect each individual’s needs and preferences. We would be delighted to discuss what level of openness feels “right” for you at different points in our ongoing relationship.
We are committed to nurturing our relationship with birth parents and family for the benefit of the child we share a deep love for, throughout our child’s life.