To potential expectant parents who are considering adoption:
I know this is bold, but we don’t really want your kid. There are a million voices talking to you right now, inside and out, and the last thing you need to worry about is some stranger just wanting your baby. That’s not us. We don’t want your baby, we want you to be happy and whole. And if you’re up for the adventure, as part of our family.
Now I know, family is…. well sometimes we’re better off not using those words. Family is both good and bad. We try to be the good parts of family, the laughter, friendship, closeness and care for each other. We are building our family, with our next child, and, also with you. I’ll be real with you, this is going to be hard, and awkward sometimes, but it’s also full of love, possibility, and it can be deeply healing.
We would love to hear from you- drop us a line. Our best to you, now & always. J&C
Who we are as a family:
We are a happy, full of love family, with Sam (4 years), our dog (Poodle, 5 years) and a large extended family. We adopted Sam in 2015, and we are now excitedly looking for the newest member of the family. Our home, and hearts, are ready for them to arrive.
Our extended family lives in the metro and within driving distance- Sam has several young cousins who he plays with regularly! We go on family vacations and enjoy each other as often as we can. Our church community is also a large part of our world- play dates with friends and spending time with our community.
We enjoy our family as much as possible. During the early spring we will take a family trip to the sunnier states, and during the summer we rent a cabin to spend some quality time together and enjoy the lake life. For fun, we play board games as a couple and with friends, take family walks, enjoy knitting or painting, and lots of healthy activities. We love life, and the people in our lives.
Our views on openness in adoption:
When we began the journey towards adoption, we had no clue what openness would mean for our family. We weren’t sure how that would work. But as we learned more and eventually met Sam’s birth family, we knew we wanted to be as open as possible. Sam’s birthmother has been a part of our family since the day she chose us to be his parents.
It’s a little messy sometimes, but our friendship with her makes our lives richer. We are so glad she is part of his life and ours. We meet up throughout the year and enjoy sending her pics or videos in the meantime. Our hope would be to have another open adoption with our second child. This looks different for each family and their needs, but we’d like to be able to text or call, share pictures, and have our second child’s birth family be an extension of our family.